Just try…

Just try to feel your own weight, in your own seat, in your own feet.

Okay?

So if you can feel that weight in your body, you can comeback into the most personal identification, a very personal identification, which is:

I AM.

THIS IS ME NOW.

HERE I AM, RIGHT NOW.

THIS IS ME NOW.

Then you don’t feel you have to leave, and be over there, or look over there.

You don’t feel like you have to rush off and be somewhere.

Bill Murray
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Sólo intenta sentir tu propio peso, en tu asiento, en tus pies.

Okay?

Entonces, si puedes sentir el peso de tu cuerpo, si puedes volver a la identificación mas personal, mas íntima de tu ser, que es:

YO SOY.

YO SOY, AHORA.

AQUI ESTOY YO, AHORA.

ESTE SOY YO AHORA.

Entonces sentirás que no te tienes que ir, y estar en tal lado o mirar para el otro costado.

No sentirás que tienes que salir corriendo para estar en otro lugar.

Bill Murray

It is funny because thinking about this quote I can only think that children come to do this naturally… they come in and out of their space, they do it just naturally and more than once, as a game.

Just observe a child and how they enjoy their own balance, the sense of standing, that unconscious affirmation of themselves…

Cuando pienso en esta frase, se me viene a la mente que los niños hacen esto naturalmente….ellos entran y salen de su propio espacio, lo hacen de manera natural y mas de una vez, como un juego.

Simplemente observa a un niño y mira como disfrutan sintiendo su balanceo, la sensación de estar de pie, esa autoafirmación inconsciente…

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Good leaders

Buenos líderes (Follow this link for a rough translation in Spanish. Thanks!)

Last night I watched a couple of TED Talks by Simon Sinek. One of them is entitled “Why good leaders make you feel safe” and I cannot recommend it more.( Check it here: https://www.ted.com/talks/simon_sinek_why_good_leaders_make_you_feel_safe).

He talks about the circle of safety and trust, how trust makes us feel safe, on his own words, “you can sleep at night because you trust that someone in this circle of safety will be looking out for danger”.

He then goes on talking about leadership and how the leader sets the tone. And how the leader makes the people in the organisation feel safe, the leader generates this circle of safety. He spoke about how fear can destroy an organisation form the inside, fear based on the lack of trust; and how when there is trust, all forces and resources are bundled together to generate and achieve.

The part that interested me the most is when he talks about parenting, and how as parents we become the “leader: a person who holds a position of power and how those who lead inspire us; how do we follow them, not because we have to but because we want to – because they inspire us, because they give us a sense of safety, because they trust us and in return we trust them”.

Simon Sinek is a motivational speaker and a business consultant (check him out here https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Simon_Sinek) and you may wonder how on earth I am talking about him and relating his concepts and ideas to parenthood and childhood.

Simple: because if I strip down parenthood of all the subjectivity, it all comes down to be a good leader. Yes, a good parent is a good leader! A child does entrust implicitly and without questioning a parent with his life for several years of his life; a child believes with blind faith in his leader. A parent is the one who makes the child feel safe, who inspires, who educates, who trust on this child, who gives the child opportunities to grow, to make mistakes. A parent is the one who goes around with an iron fist in a silk glove.

The parent is the one who will build this circle of safety and who will watch out for any dangers so the child can sleep well at night (paraphrasing Simon Sinek) and it will be the parent’s job to generate it. And as a giant plus, when there is trust there is abundance of will power to achieve, to grow, to generate and to contribute.

To great parenting, to great leadership; to epic fails and astounding recoveries.

Thank you Simon.

Once you realise…

Once you realise that the road is the goal

and that you are always on the road,

not to reach a goal, but to enjoy its beauty and its wisdom,

life ceases to be a task

and becomes natural and simple,

in itself an ecstasy.

Nisargadatta Maharaj

Cuando finalmente tedes cuenta que el camino es la meta

y que siempre estás en el camino,

no para alcanzar la meta sino para disfrutar de su belleza y sabiduría,

la vida deja de ser una tarea

y se vuelve simple, natural,

un éxtasis en si misma.

Nisargadatta Maharaj

N.B.

This kind of wisdom is the one that comes naturally with children. Life for children is natural, is simple, it is a road through a journey that comes full of wonders and amazement at each turn.

I keep wondering why adults insist on turning this natural wonder into a task, erase these forces from the child’s mind to make life a task with boxes to tick and dotted lines to fill, pre-emptied ideas and things that lack room for creation.

N.B.

Esta clase de filosofía es la que viene naturalmente en un niño. La vida, para un niño es natural, es simple, es un camino a través de una jornada que está llena de maravillas y sorpresas en cada esquina.

Aún me pregunto porqué los adultos insistimos en transformar esta maravilla natural en una tarea, borrar estas fuerzas de la mente del niño para hacer de la vida una tarea con casilleros para tildar, líneas para rellenar, ideas ya vacías de contenido y cosas que no dejan lugar para la creatividad.

Your urge….

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Your urge to control life

controls you.

Mooji

Tu necesidad de controlar la vida

te controla a tí.

Mooji

N.B.

Outside any other contexts you can give to this quote, if you relate this to childhood, it makes perfect sense. Children need to control their play, their time, their space, their will, their life, so they can control – self regulate -themselves and learn.

Also you can think on the other end of the stick which is when the adult needs to control the life of this child from beginning to end, is taking away from the child the possibility to learn.

I´m not advocating for a free range and allow the child to do whatever it comes to his mind, whatever takes his will; I am advocating for a delicate balance of power (control), where parent and child can work together in a rhythm, where the adult can control the environment so the child can play and learn to control his play, his time, his will and senses.

Comes to mind the word respect. If we respect the child, we respect ourselves.

N.B.

Fuera de cualquier otro contexto que se le pueda dar a esta frase, ésta se puede relacionar perfectamente con los niños. Los niños necesitan controlar su juego, su tiempo, su espacio, su voluntad, su vida, para así aprender a controlarse – regularse – a ellos mismos.

También se puede pensar en el otro extremo, que es cuando los adultos necesitan controlar la vida del niño de principio a fin. Al hacer esto, el adulto le quita la posibilidad al niño de aprender.

No estoy abogando por darle al niño el libre albedrío, que el niño decida hacer lo que se le venga a la mente y en gana; estoy abogando por un delicado balance de poder (control) entre adulto e infante, donde los adultos y los niños pueden trabajar juntos en un ritmo, donde el adulto puede controlar el entorno y el niño puede jugar, y aprender a controlar su juego, su tiempo, su voluntad y sus sentidos.

Se me ocurre la palabra respeto a la niñez. Respetando al niño, nos respetamos a nosotros mismos.